For those who do not understand what an open adoption is, you’ll find that this is the type of adoption where you are able to have the child get information about the biological parents or still maintain a relationship with the biological parents through contact. You will find that with the open adoption, you’ll have certain options. You will be able to keep the contact open with not just the parents, but the biological family. You’ll want to consider thinking about what an open adoption means to you and to the child. There are some obvious benefits to the open adoption and there are some drawbacks.
You may end up finding that by having this open adoption you may end up getting some advice that you don’t wish to have. You’ll find that there are some times where the biological parents are going to tell you how they think that the child should be raised, and that will be hard to deal with, especially when you believe that you have the final say, but the biological parents feel that its their responsibility to see that the child is raised correctly as well.
You’ll find that there are some things that sound appealing, but you’ll also want to keep in mind that there are times where it may make the adoption harder. It can be very hard to see the biological family and also it may be hard to see the mother or father with your adopted child. You will begin to feel envious and it may hit you a lot harder than you may ever expect.
The best way to deal with an open adoption is to try to set up some strict rules that everyone can agree on. This will help you to feel like you are still in control, but also give the biological parents a piece of mind about the child’s adoption.